Eight keys to unlock your personal charisma
Have you ever admired successful people who seem to have it all? They secure the best jobs, build the most profitable businesses, earn the biggest paychecks and date the most attractive people.
However, here’s the irony – many of them may not be smarter, more educated, or better looking than you! Decades of psychological studies have shown that what truly sets them apart is their personal charisma.
But what exactly is charisma? The answer lies in its root word ‘charis’, which means gifts or favor. Simply put, a charismatic person find favour with people easily.
Since 2006, I have had the opportunity to interview top executives and sales professionals in key industries like finance, real estate, technology and healthcare. From the hundreds of hours spent with them – through conversations and shadowing – I discovered eight keys that they use to unlock their charisma.
Charismatic people create emotional connections with others naturally. They put others at ease with their sincerity, and attract people through their confidence. They are adept at making small talk and always leave the person feeling like a star after the conversation.
But what truly brings them closer to others is their ability to establish common ground quickly, knowing full well that people like people who are like themselves.
Heads turn when a charismatic person enters the room. People listen when they talk. Even their silence carries weight. They have such an effect on others because
they stand in their own power. They do not undermine others, but neither do they let others undermine them. Instead, they see people – regardless of wealth and power – as equals. Unlike the majority who are driven by people’s acceptance or praises, they are driven by their passion and purpose, thus making them one of a kind.
Simply put, a charismatic person find favour with people easily.
Charismatic individuals are keenly aware of their strengths that draw people to them, as well as barriers that jeopardize their relationships with others. They are in full control of their psychological state of mind hence allowing them to be at their best. They are also sensitive to people’s thoughts and intentions, allowing them to maneuver any situation to their advantage.
In the minds of charismatic people is this mental image – people walking around with an invisible sign hanging from their neck, saying, “Make me feel important!” They then obey the sign, thus making them popular. These individuals are slow to criticize yet quick to compliment. They always see the best in people and are genuinely interested in their well-being. Perhaps this is why whenever they enter a room, it brighten up.
Charismatic people are natural influencers. They possess an empathetic ability that helps them to see from the perspectives of others, hence making others particularly receptive to them. They have a flair for words, and make persuasive pitches that tug at the heartstrings of their listeners. But what makes them truly exceptional is their proficiency
in using compelling stories, vivid pictures and memorable analogies to get their points across.
You can always single out the charismatic individuals in a crowd because they are always doing the unexpected. They dare to be different and are unafraid to stand out. They differentiate themselves by the way they dress, act, and talk. Charismatic people also understand that the easiest way to stand out is to simply be the best at what they do. As a result, they apply relentless dedication, determination, and sometimes even sacrifice to remain at the top of their game.
Charismatic people know that they are the average of the five people that they hang out with. Hence they constantly seek out mentors, or successful people who have walked a similar path. Whenever they meet someone new, they ask themselves, “What can I learn from this person?”
Because of their intense hunger to learn and improve, they enjoy a lot more success than others.
The Master Key: Altruism
Unlike the majority that has the ‘take-take-take’ attitude, charismatic people possess a ‘give-give-give’ attitude, constantly adding value to the people they interact with. To them, the pie is infinitely large and more than enough for everyone. They firmly believe that ‘you can get all you want in life if you first help others get what they want in life’. Their innate generosity draws people to them, like moth to flame and bees to honey.
With the above eight keys, charisma has now become an acquirable quality and you will be happy to know that we have many testimonials to prove so. If you want to enjoy the positive results of being charismatic, start applying the keys above and get ready to enjoy all the unfair advantages over your colleagues and competitors.
About The Author
Eric Feng is a leading authority in the topic of public speaking and business communications. He is the author of four communications books including ‘Get To The Point ®’ which has sold 12,000 copies till date.
Well-known for his practical insights and humor, Eric has worked with many well-known companies like IBM, AIA, Pfizer, Credit Suisse, Shell and FedEx.
“Unlock Your Personal Charisma” is his signature program which has been attended by close to 5000 executives and salespeople from Singapore, Malaysia and China. Common results reported include reduced inertia to selling, doubling of sales production and improved relationships with clients leading to repeated businesses.
The principles that he will be sharing with you in this program has also helped him gain many unfair advantages in his career including being awarded the “JCI Ten Most Outstanding Young Person Of The World” title, “Business Week Top 25 Young Entrepreneurs of Asia” title and the “NUS Outstanding Young Alumni” title.